Love is the human emotion of feeling good about wanting a positive outcome for another human being and actively helping to make it happen. When we are willing to forgo our own positive outcomes for another's — and we still feel good about it — it is true love.
We also "love" something when it makes us feel good about what we consider is a positive outcome for ourselves. Music that puts us in a good mood — joyful, peaceful, exhilarating, exciting; chocolate that elicits a warming sense of sweetness; anything that awakens a our senses and emotions positively.
So ... when we say we love someone ... is it because that person makes us feel good? ... or because we want to make them feel good? ... or both?
If loving someone is solely because of the other person making us feel good with the only concern about our making the other person also feel good motivated by enticing them to make us feel good ... well, you can see how convoluted "love" can be.
Because we have a positive emotional response to helping those we love have a positive outcome, "love" is a positive evolutionary force. It pulls/pushes us to help those we truly love, and most assuredly when we love ourselves.
And to deepen the discussion, we are taught whom we can "love". We come into awareness out of our existence learning identity markers for family and tribe. School colors and mascots, anyone?
Then Jesus came along and taught us that all humans are our family ... oops! We are still trying to learn how to ingrain THAT — human being — as our identity marker for those we are allowed to love.
And now that the only remaining barrier to the sharing of sexual pleasure is age ... the providing of sexual pleasure as a "good thing" to another person will be confusing for many ... for awhile.
What else?
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